Relationship : I’m in CONTROL

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When it comes to love and relationship some people are controlling the relationships so much that it can be hard to recognize them for what they are. There are some romantic movies and novels that are telling us that real relationships are all about obsession and that people who are truly in love have no boundaries or separate lives. Being manipulative or controlling the relationship aren’t real and true love. There are times that we thought having an abusive relationship is the only thing that matters but you don’t feel that being manipulative and controlling is a sign of unhealthy relationship.Most cases, it’s all about control and taking away your independence or freedom. Being controlled by your partner can damage to your self-esteem, make you fearful and having doubts about entering future relationships, and leave us emotional wounds that we shouldn’t have to deal with.

But there are plenty of relationships that are more one sided. A controlling man may be overprotective and to the point of unreasonable jealously or try keep a tight power with finances and be constantly telling his partner the right way to do things without ever really listening to their ideas. Early of the relationship both of you have the power or balance each others ideas. There are turning points that you won’t believe that your partner is already controlling you. How can you know that your partner is manipulative and controlling?

  • Disengage you from your family and friends – They don’t like your best friend and don’t think you should hang out with her anymore or they don’t want you to chit chat around with your family. They will try to turn you against anyone that you’re used to rely on for support. Their goal is to remove you off on your support network as well as your strength so that you will be less likely to stand up against them.

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  • Makes you feel guilty all the time – They are very skilled when it comes to this part. Your partner will let you feel the guilt whenever or whatever you are going to do with or without them. Your partner makes negative comments about your friends until you start to believe that the criticisms are true. Your partner will be a snob every time you go out with your friends, until you start not to accept their dinner invitations just to stop yourself from stress.

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  • Criticize you a lot of times – Some partners think it’s not such a big deal that he or she doesn’t like the way they dress or speak or eat or decorate their house and that they shouldn’t take it personally. They may consistently critique your decisions at work , the way you spend money , or your interests and hobbies in a way that sounds less like criticism.If every little thing you do could use improvement in your partner’s eyes, then how are you being valued as a true equal person?

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  • They don’t know the word TRUST – People who are deeply in love are allowed to have some privacy. And a partner who doesn’t  to acknowledge this isn’t being romantic at all. Your partner doesn’t have the right to check your email or messages, or have access to any of your  social media passwords, just because they say they’re scared that you might cheat, or because they will say that people who are in love don’t have secrets.  It’s a violation of your privacy, hand-in-hand with the unsettling message that they have no interest in trusting you and this shouldn’t be present within your relationship.

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  • Don’t want to hear your side – You are always interrupted in every conversations, or opinions you express have been  forgotten or never been acknowledged in the first place. Perhaps the conversation is always so ruled over by your partner that you can’t remember the last time they asked you a meaningful question about how you were doing and actually listened to your answer.

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  • Making you feel unworthy  – They are making you feel less attractive than they are. Even they try comparing you to their exes and sometimes their accomplishments when it comes to work, controlling people often want you to feel thankful that you are in a relationship with them. You will be more willing to work harder and harder to keep and to satisfy them. This is the goal of someone who wants to dominate a relationship.

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Not only me, it can be you but all of us can fall into a controlling relationship. Don’t feel stupid about it and don’t blame yourself for being with them. Controlling relationships sneak up on us, and we can’t see them for what they are until we’re with them and we know them truly. Always remember that if you are feeling that it’s wrong in the relationship you need to let it go and just be more positive with the next one.

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Controllers, abusers and manipulative people don’t question themselves. They don’t ask themselves if the problem is them. They always say the problem is someone else.”

– Darlene Ouimet

” A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends. your dreams or dignity.”

– Mandy Hale

Let It Pass By

I saw you from a far
and you can’t hide that scar
I know it’s killing you inside
When you and I can’t collide
I feel your pain
and all those chains
Stopping you to tell
All the stories that I wish I knew..

Sorry if I’d hurt you
Forgave me if I didn’t mind you
I just passed by you
And I can’t help you and it hurts me,too
You came up to me
And I ignored you
I guess I was too afraid…

Too afraid of what might had happen
I am  just protecting you
Coz I know they will hurt you
Someday you will know why?
But for now, please let it pass by…

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Listen To (Sad) Love Songs

Since I am missing my boyfriend. I think this might be a good idea to write about this. I am a music lover and I love downloading songs especially sad love songs. I love listening to brokenhearted ballads. But no one actually love being sad and depressed. So why do we love songs about sadness and misery? Look at the musical hits of the last several decades: Songs about breakups, heartache, loneliness, and regret are always there and it’s a hit. What do we feel when we are listening to this kind of songs?

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Many people choose to listen to sad music when they’re feeling down and the desire to listen to sad music is strongest directly after the beginning of being in a bad mood. It looks like sad music can be enjoyable  rather than depressing because it triggers positive memories that can help to lift our mood.

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There are times that listening to this kind of music can CONNECTS us to it.Listeners can feel the emotions expressed by the music or the meaning of the lyrics. They look for this kind of feeling when they want to re-experience those same emotions. Some listeners are more into the MESSAGE OF THE SONG ( SONG LYRICS ). When they heard the song they will like the melody of it first and after they tried to search for the lyrics of the song.Sad love songs have more intense meaning and a lot of people can relate to it. REMINISCE THE PAST that’s what they experience. The past memories that they experience can take them back. DIFFICULTY IN EXPRESSING EMOTIONS especially when you are sad. There are people that can feel sadness but can’t show it so mostly they are listening to this kind of music to help them ease the pain, hurt, sadness, misery that they are feeling. Once they cry on it they will the relief that they needed. I think it’s a HEALING  to others when they are listening to sad music. Sadness is a universal feeling, so a sad song can create a sense of connection, but it can also teach us that sadness can become something beautiful and enduring. It’s a perfection.

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I know that not all of us love  listening to this kind of music. There are times that other music genre can help others with their emotions. For me, music can help me to be more positive. Without music I think I am not complete. I don’t download songs that are more on melodies but I am focusing on the lyrics of the songs.

QUOTE OF THE DAY :

“Music speaks what we cannot be expressed, Soothes the mind and gives it rest. Heals the heart and makes it whole. Flows from heaven to the soul.”

It’s Been Awhile

Hello everyone!!!  It’s been a long time that I haven’t updated my blog because of a lot of reasons.  But it’s a surprise for now soon I’ll post more about what had happen while I was away. 

I  am still thankful that even I haven’t updated still my stats spike up once in a while.  So for now I hope you guys are fine and well and if you have any questions or stories to share you can click my facebook page.

I’ll post soon.  Love you everyone ❤❤❤

Xoxo

Dee 

Hey, he’s into you …

I admit that when I was younger I really want to know if my crush likes me,too. There are times that you see him staring or looking at you and suddenly pretends like nothing. There is this romantic excitement when he is doing that. How do we know he is into you? Does he give you hints?

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  • Conversations with you won’t stop. – Guys are not talkative except if they are with their friends but when a guy is interested with a gal, no matter what the topic is even if it is boring he will listen and talk to her.

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  • Looking at you when he is talking. – Oh,yeah! I know this awkward but this is a good sign that he likes you. It means that he is real on what he is sharing to you. They don’t normally look straight in the eyes but all of us know the feeling when he looks at you.

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  • He is in a good mood when he sees you. – If he feels this way yes you better be happy. If he is in a bad mood try to pass by him and if it changes it’s a sign.

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  • He commits on something. – It’s not literally as in relationship I mean is for example you invite him to watch a movie or concert and if commits on it, this is a sign that he likes you. Like if is not interested, why will he spend time with you not with his friends?

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  • He is being true to you and to himself. – This is the best sign. It’s really good if he is true to you because is not hiding himself. It means he is not a liar. He will say and express himself to you.

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I am not good at these but I am trying to share the things that is related or I had experience with. Hope you enjoy reading this blog posts and more to come 🙂

Have a great week to us! CHEERS!!!

Stay in love ♥♥♥

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