In a Relationship : Foreigner Boyfriend

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I am in a relationship and I am PROUD of it. My boyfriend is a foreigner and he is English. It’s just that there people who will judge why do you like foreigners. I know that there are people that can relate to me but there are some that feels envious about the relationship. I do feel bad whenever I hear people murmuring or gazing at us (especially me )  whenever we pass by them. I’ve experienced that when he was here for a vacation ( his first visit ). I know that you can’t stop other people from criticizing the relationship.

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Before I prefer to have a Filipino boyfriend because I know that there will be spark between us. After experiencing the heartbreaks I promise myself not to have another Filipino boyfriend. I don’t judge all of them but after the same reasons of having my heartbroken I think it’s enough. ( Enough… enough…!!!). Now, let’s start… I will share that there are disadvantages and advantages of having a foreigner boyfriend.




DISADVANTAGES AND ADVANTAGES:

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  • Cultural differences this can be a disadvantage and an advantage because it’s good that you can learn a new culture and you will more expose to it but sometimes there are couples that are having a conflict because of adapting of each others cultures.Be more optimistic to it because you are learning another culture and I think it’s a cool thing to do ( especially food you will discover new taste and special kind of foods )

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  • There is an instance that you can have  miscommunication because of languages ( Language Barrier ). There are times that learning another language and pronouncing the words properly is difficult. Learning each others language is fun and interesting because it can help you to communicate more to your partner’s relatives and friends.

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  •  Migrating to which country will stay ( if it’s her or his ). Who will migrate is you or your partner. There will be a lot of discussion to make and the decision making can be a headache. So the best thing is the both of you need to talk more about it and try to share their ideas about migrating.

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  •  This is the fear of all, being in Long Distance Relationship. Not being together. Miles and miles apart form each other. This can be hard. I know because I am in this situation but communication is the key. You need to communicate with each other just a simple or quick text to send to you partner is enough. Loyalty needs to be there,too. If you are in a relationship you are committed and it means it’s only your partner even you are two worlds apart.

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  • There are times that other people will think that you have partner that is a foreigner because of money or visa. Discrimination of other people is always there and present at all times. I experienced it and there are times that it was difficult to handle and I can’t hide my feelings. I don’t share it to him but he knows that I was hurt whenever other people are murmuring or gazing at us.



QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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Love Ain’t Enough, Love Fades too

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If it’s about Love everyone is excited to hear and it’s a hot topic to discuss. There is a song that inspired me to write this post. It’s like we found love and we are happy with the relationship but why there are times it’s difficult to keep it? Love is a beautiful thing, until it fades away. From the lyrics of the song :

” But there’s a danger in loving somebody to much,
and it’s sad when you know it’s your heart you can’t trust.
There’s a reason why people don’t stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.”

Why love fades? What happen to the relationship that once like a fairy tale and so perfect?

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There are some people that are not realistic when it comes to relationship or love. They expect it like fairy tales and romantic movies. There are some cases that when reality bites they will feel bad and disappointed about their relationship. The colorful and bright changes to dark and gloomy. In this cases, we need to grow up and don’t expect too much.Feeling appreciated and special play an important role in the relationship. In the beginning of the relationship everything is much appreciated but what happen when time flies? That’s why there are some couple feel that the relationship is not all worth it.

Why is it loving too much can ruin the relationship? It’s because we’re being possessive with our partner and we don’t trust them. When are in love you have to weigh in everything. How many percent? For yourself? For your partner? We shouldn’t give it all. It’s risky but you need to ask yourself if everything is worth the risk.

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They say that it’s better for the relationship when your partner is with you because the love will stay and won’t fade but I don’t believe in it. For me, there are some close distance that their love fades because of losing attraction to each other. There are times that we are too familiar with each other that’s why love fades. Familiarity can be the reason because we know our partner too much. Instead that we think of them as our partners it leads to friendship. The feeling is changing without any notice.

Arguments and misunderstandings like we all know is always there in the relationship but there are some relationship that I think they don’t know how to handle arguments and misunderstandings. Being honest about our feelings can sometimes too hard to say. When we get into the habit of swallowing our feelings and turning against our partner rather than stating how we feel, it’s not a good sign at all. Some people give up so easily because of this reason but it’s better to talk about it.

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If the one you love breaks your heart so badly that you feel bitter and unhappy and the trust that you had wasn’t there anymore we feel that we fall out of love for sure. Love and Trust  are needed in the relationship it won’t be a real relationship if there’s absence. Forgiveness can be given but to the fact that they hurt you love fades.
Yes, love becomes boring  and love does fade with time. Its law of nature. Everything fades. The roses that he gave you from the red petals to brown to black. The love letters that you keep the writings fade because you keep it for so long.  Everything is gonna end. So is love.
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So, if there’s a chance to stay together you need to find ways to keep your love alive. I know that you both know each other and how to hold on to the love and relationship that you have. Obstacles are the just tests for the both of you. If you give up easily it means that you don’t treasure each others love. Love ain’t enough and love fades but be strong and hold on.
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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Never love anybody who treats you like ordinary.”

– Oscar Wilde

He or She Cheats

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Adultery and Cheating are always in the relationship whether you’re married or just in a relationship. The most common reason : Spouses or partners cheat because of problems in relationship. Something is missing, love has faded, partners feel lonely or sad, a partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more. They are not happy with their current relationship so they find someone else that can make them happy. Another reason : there are people who ignores the true meaning of cheating and they keep on asking the question : Why is it difficult to be faithful in a relationship?

There are research that about 60% of spouses ( wives or husbands ) cheats during their marriage. There are lots of questions why they can’t be loyal to their spouses but how can they make a decision to cheat? Decisions are not so easy to say you have to think twice and deep to fully have it. In a relationship, making promises to be loyal to their spouse or partner , most people are serious in doing it and have intention of keeping their promises. In making decisions about love and not being loyal, reasons have a difficult time competing in controlling our emotions. Sometimes our emotions are influence by our behavior and lead us down to the way that it wasn’t suppose to be.

There are Types of Cheating like : Physical Cheating , the act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or partner. It is the most common among men and women but it can be view differently. Men view as depriving by force and a form of physical rejection. For women, may be more likely to see beyond the physical misjudgement if they perceive that emotions were not involved.The cheater feels emotionally connected to his partner and may only be seeking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. Emotional Cheating , may begin as friendship. An emotional cheater finds himself intimately confessing in the person, sharing thoughts, dreams and there’s an emotional closeness that would normally be reserved for his friend.  With emotional cheating, the cheater’s heart may no longer be in the relationship and the relationship was not progressing. Cyber Cheating , includes net pornography, online dating and flirting with other people on social networking sites. It is harder to catch than other forms of cheating. It requires the couple to have access to other’s computer passwords and to pay close attention to conversations each person is having on the Internet. Chexting ( Text Messaging Cheating ) , common to the high profile affairs of celebrities who were caught cheating via text messaging. According to Fox News, this is a new form of cheating because it supplies the physical proof of being unfaithful. It includes sending sexually explicit messages or pictures ,texting to arrange  dates and meeting in person . Even simple messages, such as asking how someone is doing, can be considered chexting if the intention of the person sending the text is to hook up with the recipient.

Last year, the site Ashley Madison revealed about husbands that are cheating to their wives and a lot of people panic because it was hacked. Once you cheat you may allow yourself to become distracted from your partner, and from what’s real and what’s important. In a world of where we’re loaded of  information, temptations and distractions are common. Lacking of communication with important things with your partner can driven you away from them.If one of you is a problem-focused rather than looking for solutions in the problem, you will feel worthless for a partner rather than compassion. This can lead someone to seek comfort from others.

NEXT TOPIC : Who Cheats most? Woman or Man?

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“Cheating isn’t always kissing, touching, or flirting. If you have to delete text messages so your partner doesn’t see them, you’re already there.”

 

 

 

Hey, he’s into you …

I admit that when I was younger I really want to know if my crush likes me,too. There are times that you see him staring or looking at you and suddenly pretends like nothing. There is this romantic excitement when he is doing that. How do we know he is into you? Does he give you hints?

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  • Conversations with you won’t stop. – Guys are not talkative except if they are with their friends but when a guy is interested with a gal, no matter what the topic is even if it is boring he will listen and talk to her.

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  • Looking at you when he is talking. – Oh,yeah! I know this awkward but this is a good sign that he likes you. It means that he is real on what he is sharing to you. They don’t normally look straight in the eyes but all of us know the feeling when he looks at you.

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  • He is in a good mood when he sees you. – If he feels this way yes you better be happy. If he is in a bad mood try to pass by him and if it changes it’s a sign.

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  • He commits on something. – It’s not literally as in relationship I mean is for example you invite him to watch a movie or concert and if commits on it, this is a sign that he likes you. Like if is not interested, why will he spend time with you not with his friends?

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  • He is being true to you and to himself. – This is the best sign. It’s really good if he is true to you because is not hiding himself. It means he is not a liar. He will say and express himself to you.

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I am not good at these but I am trying to share the things that is related or I had experience with. Hope you enjoy reading this blog posts and more to come 🙂

Have a great week to us! CHEERS!!!

Stay in love ♥♥♥

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Signs that you LDR is REAL

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I am in long distance relationship for more than a year now and this year is his first visit and first meeting. I have mixed emotions. I am happy, excited and nervous at the same time. There are a lot of thoughts running through my mind. I know that my relationship is still fresh not like others that’s been together for many years and years. How do we know if your long distance relationship is REAL? Below are the signs that long distance relationship is for REAL.

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  • DISTANCE Doesn’t Matter. – United Kingdom to Philippines. We are 6,000 miles apart. Distance is not the hindrance if you are both in love with each other. You both think that this is a just a test to you both and it can make your relationship stronger.

 

  • You’re both COMMITTED. – When you say you are in a relationship or committed to each other it means that it’s only between “me” and “you” or “us”. No other people are involve in your relationship.

 

  • MUTUAL feelings and love. – I know there are times that it’s difficult to be sure if your partner feels the same way as you are feeling. Be sensitive and be more observant with each other. You can really feel it if your feelings are mutual.

 

  • QUESTIONABLE future together. – If you are in a long distance relationship there should be plans in the future together especially on how you can both close the distance. Where to stay? What to do? When is the right time? If you think that you can’t see each others future it’s better to call it quits than to hope for nothing.

 

  • This relationship is not an ILLUSION. – Yes, this is really important. You really have to be sure that he or she is not just in your dream. You have to wake up and face the real world. Hey, It’s the REALITY!!!

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These are just few signs that I can share to everyone that are in a relationship especially in long distance relationship. I will be sharing more not only for long distance but also to close distance couples.

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Thanks for reading!

Reasons Why I Love My English Man

I am in love … I know it’s true love … He is not just an ordinary guy  but he is my English Man … He means a lot to me .. And soon we will be together …

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These are things that are running on my mind this time. It’s been a long time that I haven’t posted in here. There are lots of things happens in this past weeks and some are shocking. Anyway, I am will just share why I  love my English Man.

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  • His Charms

Even if he is bullying me and making fun of me once in a while but he started to use his charms on me it’s all gone. He has this armor that can attack me if I am starting to get mad at him.

  • His Smile and Laugh

My boyfriend doesn’t smile or laugh a lot if there are people seeing us doing Skype. When it’s just the two of us those rare smiles and laughs are always there to make me happy. Once a guy is ” acrimonious ” in nature and when he smiles in your conversation it means a lot and it changes every thing.

  • Being Straight-forward

I know it’s kinda weird that I like him that way but it’s good for me because I can know how he feels for me and for others. There are times that I can’t stop him from being frank but I know he is just saying what’s on his mind and I do respect it.

  • Being Cool and Positive

He is the only person that I know that never been angry at all. I even asked his sister about it. He is a cool guy and never gets mad easily. If I am down and feeling stress he always reminds me of many positive things and never give up and just cool down.

  • His Accent

He doesn’t have strong English accent but whenever he talk or speak I am trap in him. It’s like being hypnotize by him. It’s one of the reasons why I am in love with him.

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These are just few reasons why I love him. There are more and many more to mention. Our relationship is not perfect but we are trying our best to end up together in the future.

Thank you for reading

xoxo ♥

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BONUS : MY FAVORITE ENGLISH ACTORS

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