I worried too much….

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I admit that I am a worrier. I worry a lot that’s why I feel the stress more. I know that being a worrier is a big NO-NO. I just can’t help it. Nigel told me to relax and don’t think too much about problems because it won’t help me at all. While relaxing, I tried to find ways not to mind it.




 

1. Don’t Stress Yourself Too Much. – Stress is a word that a lot of people know and it is within you it will stay longer unless you leave it behind. Being stress can think your more negatively and can focus more on bad things. What you have to do is let loose of yourself. You can try to go for a walk, watch movies, write about something, eat out and have a good shower.

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2. Stop Being a Perfectionist. – Some of us are afraid to make mistakes.Your standards will be so high that you’ll also be dissatisfied with the result that other people would find acceptable. You won’t be contented with what you are doing at work or school.

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3. Focus. – Being focus with one thing at a time can help you stop worrying too much. You’re not thinking a lot. Your mind won’t be crowded. Too many thoughts can make yourself struggle on a daily basis.

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4. Talking to friends or relatives that close to you. – Talking can help you release the stress that you are in to. This is just a simple thing that other people can help you. Nobody can take away your worries but when others showing you that they care it means much.

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5. Fear Less – Too many questions on your mind can take over your life. The ” what if? ”  questions are not a good question for yourself. What you can do is try to visualize that the problem is finished. Then try to think of the positive result of the problem that you are thinking of.

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I know I make mistakes.. I am human … I am not perfect.. We all are…

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“Worry a little bit every day and in a lifetime you will lose a couple of years. If something is wrong, fix it if you can. But train yourself not to worry. Worry never fixes anything.”
– Mary Hemingway

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Types of Boyfriends

I got this idea from a Youtube video but it is ” Types of Girlfriends”. The vlogger is really good in describing because I think I am one of the women he mentioned on the video. On my blog post, I will share the different kinds of boyfriend that we women have.

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  • Mr. Nice Guy – Honestly, this is the kind of guy that most women want. He is the guy that we watch in a romantic movie. Having romantic dates, giving you surprises,flowers etc.

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  • Mr. Douche Bag – He is not contended and he is conceited. He  wants to be on the top and you find him so annoying. He has a lot of ego and you are not important to him.

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  • Mr. Jealousy – He is not understanding the word ” TRUST “.  Talking to a guy friend makes him boiling. He is very possessive and he always keep an eye on YOU.

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  • Mr. Insecurity – He is a type of guy that is self centered. He is in doubt about the love of his girlfriend. He is narcissistic but has low self esteem.

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  • Mr. Smarty Pants – You can have a quality conversation with him. He is not the nerdy type but you can learn a lot of things from him.

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  • Mr. Bad BoyGood girls like them. He has this mysterious character that you can’t resist.  He is damn hot!

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No matter what type of boyfriend you have as long as you love him truly it’s enough. I’ll be posting “ TYPES OF GIRLFRIENDS ” soon.

QUOTE OF THE DAY :

” Love you without reason, for no reason I want you, need you also without reason, but I know you are just the man I’m looking for. “

 

 

Heal My Broken Heart

Last time I wrote about Closure and now let’s go to the Healing process. Healing takes time. After the break up hurt and pain is existing and it’s the same as the person is undergoing withdrawal in an addiction. You may not erase that person completely in your mind. But being positive in life can help you getting over with it. But starting to pick up the pieces is a good start of your healing process.

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Closing doors from the past doesn’t mean to leave it behind. Experiences like good especially bad memories can help us to learn from it. Healing from the bad experiences can help us grow and start a new. Whenever you feel the sadness, hurt  and pain try to face it. Breathe in and out.

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It isn’t good when someone told you that your ex is a loser or it’s a good thing you broke up. Try to tell them what you really feel about the pain and later on you will realize that it’s easy to talk about it. It’s okay to be reminded of the past. There are times that you think that you already end the relationship you will feel that you have this bitterness inside you. If it can make you feel better try to list down things that can you can feel the pain or the things that you never said to him.

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Acceptance is the main key to healing. When you see your ex : What comes to your mind?  What if he/she will introduce me as his/her EX? What will you react? Now that your relationship is over you shouldn’t feel any bitterness. Try to remember that your ex is not the worst person in your life. He did hurt you but he can help you heal, too.

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Not everyone can Forgive their ex. It takes a tough person to do it. When your ex asks forgiveness give it. But true forgiveness should be real and committed. But it’s not always with the ex ask forgiveness to him/her,too. Once you do it, it means that thorn that was in there was pull out and the scars are healing.

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Hoping for a better relationship in the future can ease the pain. It’s fine to look back the past but stay positive with it. It is a matter of time to see that Smile again. Closure doesn’t mean that the painful memories are gone and it doesn’t mean that it’s a cycle. It is accepting the past and be committed to the future on moving on.

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” When you can tell the story and it doesn’t bring up any pain and tears, then you are Healed.”
– Lvania Vanzant

 

 

Why CLOSURE hurts most?

 Last time I posted about : BREAK-UP

This is the second topic that I have in mind. This is short and very simple post but surely you can learn from it.

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What does CLOSURE really mean? Why it is hard to move on and leave the past behind? Why do still feel the pain after break up even you are in good terms? When you meet you think you already moved on but it’s not the what you think . There are times through help of friends and relatives you are picking up the pieces that had been shattered. But sometimes we can’t get over the past. There are times that we can’t understand ourselves why the other person leaves or cheats. And because we still love the person and we invested much on the relationship we can’t stop thinking them.

It’s so easy to say that you have move on but it’s not easy to do it. If you check the meaning of closure in the dictionary :  To attempt to ‘move on’ following the termination of a relationship with another individual. Do we really understand it? It’s really important to have closure because we can’t fully move on or accept that we are not in the relationship anymore. If there’s no closure we can’t commit, trust or be in a relationship for the next time. 

Closure fails because there are situations that they don’t fully understand it. Some people will break up and then make up so they can’t have the peace that they wanted. All of the situations can be harder to leave because of the reality of it all. Being together and staying is easy but you can’t feel any happiness when you are with them.

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 NEXT : HEALING

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

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Do We Need A Second Chance?

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For me, I don’t really want to go to my past especially my exes it’s not worth it. Honestly, I can be friends with them but in a relationship is a big “NO” for me. Past is past and it will never be my Present and Future. Can love be sweeter the second time around?  As I was reading online in an article, it was written that 51% believe in it. They said that sometimes you end up a relationship wrongly. Reasons that are not supposed to be bothered about. Why do we need to take back our past relationship and start a new happy relationship with your ex?

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Feelings oh Feelings! If the sparks are still there but you can’t accept that you still want to be with that person.There are couples that they will have a sudden break up and waking up one day regretting everything. Just like Selena Gomez’s song : The Heart Wants What It Wants. If your heart is beating fast whenever you are with him/her it means that he/she is still special. Just remember that the love is still there between “US”.

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Building Trust is Important!  Since you will do a fresh start with him/her. You will build a new trust. But now take note that you will not give it all. The 100%. Leave something for yourself in case. When you get back together try to seek some advice from friends or family about starting your relationship with him/her.

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We Need to Change! Yes, it’s true. It’s not the past so you have to focus on the present that you are together. Try to communicate and talk every issues clearly. Learn to have limitations and set rules in your relationship. It’s different now. Change takes time and it won’t be easy  but you can do it step by step. If you are into arguments and misunderstandings, Sit Down…Listen… Talk.. Make Up…

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I’m doing HIS part, I’m doing MY part! This is important. If you both think that you are both giving importance. When you think the efforts that you did was all worth it for your new relationship. Why not give it another try?

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I know that it’s difficult to forgive and forget the past. We can move on and sometime comeback for a special reasons. If you think he/she is worth everything. You can start new love. Just take it slowly and surely.

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QUOTE FOR THE DAY:

 ” Maybe sometimes Love needs a second chance because it wasn’t ready the first time around.”

LDR Problems and Ways to Avoid it

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Hello guys! It’s been a while that I haven’t been posting in here. I do admit that after the LDRBN stopped my blogger instinct seemed so down. I wanted to write and post something but I don’t know how to start and what to write. I felt lame after so I was busy with work, going out with friends and family and “ME” time. I am not really back on track but while I was browsing my news feed on Facebook. I read many things about long distance relationship and some caught my attention. There are a lot of problems in long distance relationship but good thing LDR couples manage and solve it right away. I will just share some problems about LDR and how to avoid it.

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PROBLEM #1

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  • B.O.R.E.D. – Yes, it happens all the time. There are times that you are sick and tired of the same conversations that you have and you don’t know what topics you can talk about. The result is the long silence on your Skype Video dates.

AVOID IT !

  • Remember that only boring people get bored. You have to expand more topics. Look for topics that can spice things up ( NOTE : I am not talking about the naughty topics.) You can search for topics that can make your partner curious so they can ask many questions. If you are in an interracial relationship, you can teach your partner your language ( NOTE : basic expressions in your language ). Teach your partner some expressions that they are not used to hear it all time. At least you can both expand your knowledge.

PROBLEM #2

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  • Jealous Much – Because of the distance between couple and there are times that when they go out with friends I mean very close friends we can’t handle ourselves to be jealous. There are times that we are too afraid to lose them. Sometimes it’s the instinct that a human has.

AVOID IT !

  • You have to be true and be real on what you feel. It’s better that you say it with honesty than keeping it. Don’t be afraid to say it. When you are saying or talking to your partner you have to calm down and listen also listen to your partner side of the story. Don’t judge everything that you see.

PROBLEM #3

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Arguments and Fights

    – It’s not easy if you argue and fight especially if you are in a long distance relationship. Misunderstandings and a lot of misunderstandings will occur. Temper can’t be handled carefully can be stressful.

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  • Do not debate with each other. Always remember to breathe in and breathe out.If the other person is angry let that person loose himself or herself. Don’t go at the same feelings with your partner. Try to solve the problem together. You are partner so don’t try to argue with other much.

PROBLEM #4

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  • Missing too much – This is one of the challenges when you are in a long distance relationship. It makes you crazy because you miss your partner. You wish that you are with him/her.

AVOID IT !

  • Try not to think much about your partner. Do not focus too much. Think of other things where you can get him/her off your mind. Go out with friends. Go shopping or window shopping. Travel or go on with a trip with your family or friends. Try to blog or read books. There are many things to do.

PROBLEM #5

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  • No Signal. – This is the worst problem in long distance relationship. I have it all the time. Sometimes signal is all gone at all. You try to turn off and on your phone but it’s the same.

AVOID IT !

  • This can’t be avoided. Just make sure that you have a good or great signal. If you have a better signal you try to send a message to your partner about it so your partner will not be worried about you.

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These are just few problems that we can or encounter when you’re in a long distance relationship. I hope that it can somewhat help when you are in a LDR. Thank you for reading my post!

NOTE : I miss writing! 🙂

CONFLICTS : You can check this out!

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Distance never separates two people Truly in Love.”

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Our Song and “Us”

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Every time I am watching romantic movies there’s always a scene that songs are playing. In the back of my mind, I wish I am the woman on that movie. There are a lot of songs that I dedicated to Nigel and it’s mostly love songs.He is not a fan of it but I appreciate he is trying to listen to it. If you love listening to music you have a lot things on your mind and you make each songs as your soundtracks.

I am thinking what will be the best soundtrack for me and Nigel. For us. For our relationship. I love listening to songs that are around 80’s and 90’s because the lyrics of the songs are more meaningful and sweet. I love to listen to Air Supply, The Carpenters and a lot more. The songs are catchy and you can really relate through it. I also love revival songs. Here in the Philippines there are lots of singers who revives songs from the past.The same songs but different styles of singing. Mostly ballad and mellow tracks. I wanted to include OPM ( Original Pilipino Music ) on my post. Here, I will mention Filipino singer/s who sing the revival or the original song.

The songs that I choose are the best for us. These are revival songs by my favorite Filipino singers. They did the revival few years ago but it’s still famous here in the Philippines. I think the songs really fit for the both of us. While reading my posts, you will know why I choose the songs in here. My relationship with him was unexpected and because we in a long distance relationship we miss each other every day even if we are having our Skype Dates. I will share the lyrics of the songs in here so you can check it out. Who knows you might download it.

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GLORY OF LOVE – DINGDONG AVANZADO AND JESSA ZARAGOZA

It was originally sang by Peter Cetera. A 1980’s hit and was written by him and David Foster. The genre is pop / soft rock. Year 2000’s ” New Found Glory ” did the revival. This song was included in Jessa Zaragoza’s album. I love to listen to this version because it’s like they give more meaning to the song especially they are couple so I can relate to it. They did some edit of the lyrics of the song and it’s great and that makes the difference of it.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

The song reflects my relationship with Nigel. While listening to it I am picturing it out the scene in the movie with him. Rainy day in the park just having fun and enjoying the rain. Nigel is the only guy who that gives me mixed emotions, makes me so special and always telling me that I am his forever and my soul mate. He is my dream guy I know that for sure. No matter what happen he will fight for our love.

LYRICS:

Dingdong : Tonight it’s very clear, as we’re both lying here
There’s so many things, I want to say
I have always love you, I could never leave you alone

Jessa : Sometimes I just forget, say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying
I don’t wanna lose you, I could never make it alone

Dingdong : I am a man, who will fight for your honor
Jessa : You’ll be the hero I’ve been  dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Jessa : You keep me standing tall, you help me through it all
I’m always strong when you’re beside me
Dingdong : I have always needed you, I could never make it alone

Jessa : You are the man who will fight for my honor
Dingdong : I’ll be the hero you’ve been dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Dingdong : Like a knight in shining armor, from a long time ago
Just the time or seize the day,Jessa : take me to your castle far away

Jessa : You are the man Both: who will fight for my/your honor

I’ll be the hero that Jessa : I’ve been dreaming of ( You’ve been dreaming of )
Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We did it all for love, we did it all for love
We did it all for love, we did it all for love

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EVERYDAY – AGOT ISIDRO

I know that are wondering about this song and it’s not familiar. This is an original Filipino music. Agot Isidro is a Filipina recording artist, actress, host, and TV personality. This is a ballad song and this a 90’s hit here in the Philippines.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

This is like a long distance relationship. Checking the song lyrics there is distance between the lovers in the song. I can relate to the song because I always miss him. Because of the distance I really want him to know that I may not be there but telling him how much he means to me is like my presence is there with him.

 LYRICS:

Got a letter in the mail today
and im glad you’re doing fine
U tell me your missing me
and its cold in new york city
well me and the girls were alright
thinking about you night after night
and if you feel the same way too
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everyday ill always love you
everyday im always thinking of you
everyday’s another lonely day without you
everyday you’re here beside me
everyday im always dreaming of you
everyday i will be right here waiting for you
everyday…hoo
It’s another long and sleepless night
And thoughts run through my mind
Guess I’m just feeling lonely
It’s been so empty since you’ve been gone

I’ll be holding on for it won’t be long
I’ll be counting the days til i see u home
And if u feel the same way too
Just remember these words ill say to you

Repeat chorus

Everyday…everyday

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SECRET LOVE SONG – LITTLE MIX FEAT. JASON DERULO
This is a modern song and you can hear on the radio playing. A ballad song that gives me chills every time it plays on my playlist. Little Mix a British girl group and consisting of members Jade Thirlwall, Perrie Edwards, Leigh-Anne Pinnock, and Jesy Nelson. Jason Derulo is an American singer, songwriter, and dancer.
 WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?
I am hooked with this song since I looked for the song lyrics and it hit me much every time they sing this. There is something in this song that I can’t explain. It’s like a secret love between the two person. They have mutual feelings but they can’t express their love to all. I tried to relate this to my relationship because we are far from each other and I feel envious to other couples that are so close to each other and they can do anything.
 LYRICS:
When you hold me in the street
And you kiss me on the dance floor
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

We keep behind closed doors
Every time I see you, I die a little more
Stolen moments that we steal as the curtain falls
It’ll never be enough
It’s obvious you’re meant for me
Every piece of you, it just fits perfectly
Every second, every thought, I’m in so deep
But I’ll never show it on my face

But we know this, we got a love that is homeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

[Jason Derulo:]
When you’re with him, do you call his name
Like you do when you’re with me? Does it feel the same?
Would you leave if I was ready to settle down?
Or would you play it safe and stay?

Girl you know this, we got a love that is hopeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

And nobody knows I’m in love with someone’s baby
I don’t wanna hide us away
Tell the world about the love we’re making
I’m living for that day
Someday
Why can’t I hold you in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that we could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours, I’m yours

Oh, why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours
Why can’t I say that I’m in love?
I wanna shout it from the rooftops
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

Why can’t we be like that?
Wish we could be like that

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NOTE : I should have posted this to LDRBN but soon our community will be closing down so I will just share in here. The posts that I will do in the future will be dedicated for LDRBN and LDRBN friends and I hope we will continue to support each other.
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