Long Distance Relationship Will It Lasts?

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This modern world, many people are trying online-dating and many couples find themselves in long-distance relationships. But do they last? Being together with your partner is believed to help and maintain romantic relationships by giving people a chance to understand each other, and yet, some long distance relationships tend to last. Researchers suggest that one reason long distance relationships last is because they are likely to have the idea of having a romantic relationship with their partner or the tendency to describe their relationship in unrealistically positive terms.

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Couples that are in long distance relationships tend to look back about their relationship in a more positive way. Being positive in the relationship can lead them to believe they have a lot more in common, regardless of whether or not they really do. Partners in long distance relationship have the advantage of always showing most positive way possible in maintaining the idea of the relationship. In other words, people in long distance relationships rarely see all the daily ups and downs of their partner’s mood and attitude.

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There are times that when they close the distance there are some couples break up because they already know their partners personality. Distance can prevent partners from learning about each others negative qualities thus only creating an overly positive impression. The relationship may be happy and stable they are not together but in reality can become quite disappointing once back together.

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How can you make your long distance relationship last long? Some couples said that long distance relationship can last long by increasing the amount of communication. And this modern world, there are plenty of ways to increase it. Social media sites, messenger, text messaging, phone calls, and emails can supplement face-to-face communication. Others said that TRUST is also important in this relationship. Don’t give 100% you need to  And BEING COMMITTED is one of the reasons,too. Even though your partner is miles apart you are committed to your partner and you are not allowed to look for another partner because the reason is you miss your partner.

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GOOD COMMUNICATION with your partner is one of the key so your long distance relationship will last. Make sure to talk about everything, just as if you see your partner every day. When you are unable to close the distance yet, you and your partner need to develop other more creative and unique ways to become intimate with each other. Partners that take active and strive to get know each other will have a more realistic idea of their relationship, and will make their Long Distance Relationships Last.

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“Distance is not for the fearful, it is for the bold. It’s for those who are willing to spend a lot of time alone in exchange for a little time with the one they love. It’s for those knowing a good thing when they see it, even if they don’t see it nearly enough…”

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In a Relationship : Foreigner Boyfriend

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I am in a relationship and I am PROUD of it. My boyfriend is a foreigner and he is English. It’s just that there people who will judge why do you like foreigners. I know that there are people that can relate to me but there are some that feels envious about the relationship. I do feel bad whenever I hear people murmuring or gazing at us (especially me )  whenever we pass by them. I’ve experienced that when he was here for a vacation ( his first visit ). I know that you can’t stop other people from criticizing the relationship.

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Before I prefer to have a Filipino boyfriend because I know that there will be spark between us. After experiencing the heartbreaks I promise myself not to have another Filipino boyfriend. I don’t judge all of them but after the same reasons of having my heartbroken I think it’s enough. ( Enough… enough…!!!). Now, let’s start… I will share that there are disadvantages and advantages of having a foreigner boyfriend.




DISADVANTAGES AND ADVANTAGES:

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  • Cultural differences this can be a disadvantage and an advantage because it’s good that you can learn a new culture and you will more expose to it but sometimes there are couples that are having a conflict because of adapting of each others cultures.Be more optimistic to it because you are learning another culture and I think it’s a cool thing to do ( especially food you will discover new taste and special kind of foods )

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  • There is an instance that you can have  miscommunication because of languages ( Language Barrier ). There are times that learning another language and pronouncing the words properly is difficult. Learning each others language is fun and interesting because it can help you to communicate more to your partner’s relatives and friends.

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  •  Migrating to which country will stay ( if it’s her or his ). Who will migrate is you or your partner. There will be a lot of discussion to make and the decision making can be a headache. So the best thing is the both of you need to talk more about it and try to share their ideas about migrating.

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  •  This is the fear of all, being in Long Distance Relationship. Not being together. Miles and miles apart form each other. This can be hard. I know because I am in this situation but communication is the key. You need to communicate with each other just a simple or quick text to send to you partner is enough. Loyalty needs to be there,too. If you are in a relationship you are committed and it means it’s only your partner even you are two worlds apart.

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  • There are times that other people will think that you have partner that is a foreigner because of money or visa. Discrimination of other people is always there and present at all times. I experienced it and there are times that it was difficult to handle and I can’t hide my feelings. I don’t share it to him but he knows that I was hurt whenever other people are murmuring or gazing at us.



QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

Love Ain’t Enough, Love Fades too

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If it’s about Love everyone is excited to hear and it’s a hot topic to discuss. There is a song that inspired me to write this post. It’s like we found love and we are happy with the relationship but why there are times it’s difficult to keep it? Love is a beautiful thing, until it fades away. From the lyrics of the song :

” But there’s a danger in loving somebody to much,
and it’s sad when you know it’s your heart you can’t trust.
There’s a reason why people don’t stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.”

Why love fades? What happen to the relationship that once like a fairy tale and so perfect?

❥ ❤ ❥ ❤ ❥ ❤ ❥ ❤ ❥ ❤ ❥ ❤

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There are some people that are not realistic when it comes to relationship or love. They expect it like fairy tales and romantic movies. There are some cases that when reality bites they will feel bad and disappointed about their relationship. The colorful and bright changes to dark and gloomy. In this cases, we need to grow up and don’t expect too much.Feeling appreciated and special play an important role in the relationship. In the beginning of the relationship everything is much appreciated but what happen when time flies? That’s why there are some couple feel that the relationship is not all worth it.

Why is it loving too much can ruin the relationship? It’s because we’re being possessive with our partner and we don’t trust them. When are in love you have to weigh in everything. How many percent? For yourself? For your partner? We shouldn’t give it all. It’s risky but you need to ask yourself if everything is worth the risk.

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They say that it’s better for the relationship when your partner is with you because the love will stay and won’t fade but I don’t believe in it. For me, there are some close distance that their love fades because of losing attraction to each other. There are times that we are too familiar with each other that’s why love fades. Familiarity can be the reason because we know our partner too much. Instead that we think of them as our partners it leads to friendship. The feeling is changing without any notice.

Arguments and misunderstandings like we all know is always there in the relationship but there are some relationship that I think they don’t know how to handle arguments and misunderstandings. Being honest about our feelings can sometimes too hard to say. When we get into the habit of swallowing our feelings and turning against our partner rather than stating how we feel, it’s not a good sign at all. Some people give up so easily because of this reason but it’s better to talk about it.

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If the one you love breaks your heart so badly that you feel bitter and unhappy and the trust that you had wasn’t there anymore we feel that we fall out of love for sure. Love and Trust  are needed in the relationship it won’t be a real relationship if there’s absence. Forgiveness can be given but to the fact that they hurt you love fades.
Yes, love becomes boring  and love does fade with time. Its law of nature. Everything fades. The roses that he gave you from the red petals to brown to black. The love letters that you keep the writings fade because you keep it for so long.  Everything is gonna end. So is love.
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So, if there’s a chance to stay together you need to find ways to keep your love alive. I know that you both know each other and how to hold on to the love and relationship that you have. Obstacles are the just tests for the both of you. If you give up easily it means that you don’t treasure each others love. Love ain’t enough and love fades but be strong and hold on.
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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Never love anybody who treats you like ordinary.”

– Oscar Wilde

Who Cheats the Most? Men or Women?

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Last topic I posted about Cheating. One of my friend asked : Who cheats the most? Men or Women?. She left me a hanging question and suggested that I need to write about it. Not everyone will be unfaithful and I do agree with that. Before I answer that question I will try to research more about it. I want to be fair. There are factors that can influence a person to cheat :

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  • Attractiveness of the person – influenced by one’s physical appearance, social skills, and one’s resources like money.  People who have higher incomes, more education, and have more success in life are more likely to cheat than people who are less successful. Physical attractiveness also plays an important role.
  • Risk Takers – People who like to take risks or more adventurous are more likely to cheat.  There is most likely a genetic component involved in risk-taking behavior—some people may be willing to take risks in cheating.
  • More Influential – Influential people are likely to cheat. Having power increases confidence, leading individuals to act in more aggressive and outgoing ways. Powerful people are more likely to make direct eye contact and approach potential lovers. Power influences the likelihood of cheating for both men and women.
  • Flirty Conversations – We love to communicate with other people. We tend to express our feelings to our friends , co-workers and etc., Sometimes we forget that the conversations that we are into are too flirty and not appropriate. Being flirty and having a flirty conversation are there if we are into that person.

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While checking online , and I do feel sorry about the result but WOMEN are likely to cheat than MEN. The survey claims that women ages 35 to 40 were the most likely to play around  in being unfaithful because many are childless and looking to get more than a goodnight kiss as a result of a meeting of love affair. Surprising right?

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There are a lot of research and surveys that psychologist did to women and men to know who is unfaithful in the relationship. The reasons why women got higher percent because there are times that mostly women are housewives they feel lonely especially if their husband’s work is traveling to other countries. So sometimes they are too friendly with other guys in the neighborhood.

Some men don’t pay attention and don’t spend too much time with their wives after they have kids. So as a wife, you need to be beautiful for your husband. You lose weight and go to the gym to let him appreciate you more but because of some men in the gym notice you more and more you feel more appreciated. Because of the attention that is existing there will be times that you flirt with other guys.

NOTE : I want to share this you : The Science Of Infidelity

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It’s important to remember that all relationships take work and none are perfect. The solution to unhappiness in love, relationship and marriage is probably not to have sex with other men or women. It’s much better to communicate or talk with your significant other and working out your problems—before you do something that can ruin the relationship. On the survey, 15 percent of men say they would forgive a cheater.

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” A cheaters punishment is to live a life of mistrust because they live in constant fear that the person they cheated with will also cheat on them; some call it poetic justice. But I call it KARMA.”

 

 

He or She Cheats

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Adultery and Cheating are always in the relationship whether you’re married or just in a relationship. The most common reason : Spouses or partners cheat because of problems in relationship. Something is missing, love has faded, partners feel lonely or sad, a partner finds someone who treats them better or who appreciates them more. They are not happy with their current relationship so they find someone else that can make them happy. Another reason : there are people who ignores the true meaning of cheating and they keep on asking the question : Why is it difficult to be faithful in a relationship?

There are research that about 60% of spouses ( wives or husbands ) cheats during their marriage. There are lots of questions why they can’t be loyal to their spouses but how can they make a decision to cheat? Decisions are not so easy to say you have to think twice and deep to fully have it. In a relationship, making promises to be loyal to their spouse or partner , most people are serious in doing it and have intention of keeping their promises. In making decisions about love and not being loyal, reasons have a difficult time competing in controlling our emotions. Sometimes our emotions are influence by our behavior and lead us down to the way that it wasn’t suppose to be.

There are Types of Cheating like : Physical Cheating , the act of being sexually intimate with someone other than your spouse or partner. It is the most common among men and women but it can be view differently. Men view as depriving by force and a form of physical rejection. For women, may be more likely to see beyond the physical misjudgement if they perceive that emotions were not involved.The cheater feels emotionally connected to his partner and may only be seeking to fulfill a sexual fantasy. Emotional Cheating , may begin as friendship. An emotional cheater finds himself intimately confessing in the person, sharing thoughts, dreams and there’s an emotional closeness that would normally be reserved for his friend.  With emotional cheating, the cheater’s heart may no longer be in the relationship and the relationship was not progressing. Cyber Cheating , includes net pornography, online dating and flirting with other people on social networking sites. It is harder to catch than other forms of cheating. It requires the couple to have access to other’s computer passwords and to pay close attention to conversations each person is having on the Internet. Chexting ( Text Messaging Cheating ) , common to the high profile affairs of celebrities who were caught cheating via text messaging. According to Fox News, this is a new form of cheating because it supplies the physical proof of being unfaithful. It includes sending sexually explicit messages or pictures ,texting to arrange  dates and meeting in person . Even simple messages, such as asking how someone is doing, can be considered chexting if the intention of the person sending the text is to hook up with the recipient.

Last year, the site Ashley Madison revealed about husbands that are cheating to their wives and a lot of people panic because it was hacked. Once you cheat you may allow yourself to become distracted from your partner, and from what’s real and what’s important. In a world of where we’re loaded of  information, temptations and distractions are common. Lacking of communication with important things with your partner can driven you away from them.If one of you is a problem-focused rather than looking for solutions in the problem, you will feel worthless for a partner rather than compassion. This can lead someone to seek comfort from others.

NEXT TOPIC : Who Cheats most? Woman or Man?

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“Cheating isn’t always kissing, touching, or flirting. If you have to delete text messages so your partner doesn’t see them, you’re already there.”

 

 

 

Types Of Girlfriends

Last time I posted about different Types of Boyfriends and now I want to share different Types of Girlfriends. It is still inspired by the vlog that I watched on YouTube. On my post I will name names on them below.

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  • Ms. Chesty Cheating – She is selfish and she thinks she can have it all. Within the relationship she will reach to the point where she has a lot of guys  than with her boyfriend. Generally this type of ‘gal‘ will get caught after her unsuspecting partner finds out about it.

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  • Ms. Wendy Wifey – This gal can’t wait to settle down, buy a house and wants to have babies and be with you in the future. She isn’t bothered about who you are or what you look like. She is good in the kitchen , can be a superwoman and a ” wife material woman ” .

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  • Ms. Cony Commander – This gal is not the kind of woman that you are looking for. She can restraint you for doing something. Physically, you think she is the perfect one for you but inside she is your worst nightmare. This is the type of girlfriend who is very demanding and most of the time commanding.

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  • Ms. Dana Drama – The best drama actress #mygirlfriend.  You don’t know if she is  an attention seeker, just acting or  being  a brat. She cries when you’re together and  wants you to defend her at all times, and always wants you to care for her. She feels that she is the pitiful one.

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  • Ms. Hello then Goodbye – Today, your status is “in relationship” then tomorrow is back to “single and ready to mingle” status. For no reason why it has to end so soon like that? Maybe both of you are not ready to be in a relationship. It’s not that you are not meant to be, it’s not everything you want. Things don’t work out for both of you. So better stop!

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  • Ms. NBSB ( No Boyfriend Since Birth ) – Conservative , still a virgin and very sensitive. She follows strict rules in your relationship like :  No touch, no holding hands, no kiss and definitely no sex until you propose to her and get married! It’s hard to find and it will take you a very long wait. But she is worth the wait and I think that’s what all guys are looking for.

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  • Ms. Betty Bitter – A type of girlfriend who can’t move on and can’t accept that the relationship either in a short term or long term was over. She has lots of questions in her mind. That is the ” WHAT IF” questions. When you tell her that she is so bitter she will deny it immediately.  When you broke up with your boyfriend, leave it behind and get over with it.

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  • Ms. Mary Martyr – She is head over heels in love with her boyfriend. Even if she found out that her boyfriend is cheating on her and knows that he wants her to be out of his life.  She just ignores it for the love because she is in love. She is numb with pain and  feelings but very pretentious. Pretending that everything’s fine and okay. Trying to hide her shattered being that’s why she decided to be strong.

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  • Ms. Demi Dreamy – She has a beautiful face, sexy, smart and she is a girl whom you can be proud of. She is your dream girl. Well, honestly, just in your dreams and too bad she doesn’t exist at all  because she’s too perfect for you.

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” A Girl should be like a Butterfly. Pretty to see, hard to catch.”

Types of Boyfriends

I got this idea from a Youtube video but it is ” Types of Girlfriends”. The vlogger is really good in describing because I think I am one of the women he mentioned on the video. On my blog post, I will share the different kinds of boyfriend that we women have.

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  • Mr. Nice Guy – Honestly, this is the kind of guy that most women want. He is the guy that we watch in a romantic movie. Having romantic dates, giving you surprises,flowers etc.

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  • Mr. Douche Bag – He is not contended and he is conceited. He  wants to be on the top and you find him so annoying. He has a lot of ego and you are not important to him.

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  • Mr. Jealousy – He is not understanding the word ” TRUST “.  Talking to a guy friend makes him boiling. He is very possessive and he always keep an eye on YOU.

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  • Mr. Insecurity – He is a type of guy that is self centered. He is in doubt about the love of his girlfriend. He is narcissistic but has low self esteem.

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  • Mr. Smarty Pants – You can have a quality conversation with him. He is not the nerdy type but you can learn a lot of things from him.

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  • Mr. Bad BoyGood girls like them. He has this mysterious character that you can’t resist.  He is damn hot!

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No matter what type of boyfriend you have as long as you love him truly it’s enough. I’ll be posting “ TYPES OF GIRLFRIENDS ” soon.

QUOTE OF THE DAY :

” Love you without reason, for no reason I want you, need you also without reason, but I know you are just the man I’m looking for. “