In a Relationship : Foreigner Boyfriend

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I am in a relationship and I am PROUD of it. My boyfriend is a foreigner and he is English. It’s just that there people who will judge why do you like foreigners. I know that there are people that can relate to me but there are some that feels envious about the relationship. I do feel bad whenever I hear people murmuring or gazing at us (especially me )  whenever we pass by them. I’ve experienced that when he was here for a vacation ( his first visit ). I know that you can’t stop other people from criticizing the relationship.

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Before I prefer to have a Filipino boyfriend because I know that there will be spark between us. After experiencing the heartbreaks I promise myself not to have another Filipino boyfriend. I don’t judge all of them but after the same reasons of having my heartbroken I think it’s enough. ( Enough… enough…!!!). Now, let’s start… I will share that there are disadvantages and advantages of having a foreigner boyfriend.




DISADVANTAGES AND ADVANTAGES:

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  • Cultural differences this can be a disadvantage and an advantage because it’s good that you can learn a new culture and you will more expose to it but sometimes there are couples that are having a conflict because of adapting of each others cultures.Be more optimistic to it because you are learning another culture and I think it’s a cool thing to do ( especially food you will discover new taste and special kind of foods )

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  • There is an instance that you can have  miscommunication because of languages ( Language Barrier ). There are times that learning another language and pronouncing the words properly is difficult. Learning each others language is fun and interesting because it can help you to communicate more to your partner’s relatives and friends.

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  •  Migrating to which country will stay ( if it’s her or his ). Who will migrate is you or your partner. There will be a lot of discussion to make and the decision making can be a headache. So the best thing is the both of you need to talk more about it and try to share their ideas about migrating.

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  •  This is the fear of all, being in Long Distance Relationship. Not being together. Miles and miles apart form each other. This can be hard. I know because I am in this situation but communication is the key. You need to communicate with each other just a simple or quick text to send to you partner is enough. Loyalty needs to be there,too. If you are in a relationship you are committed and it means it’s only your partner even you are two worlds apart.

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  • There are times that other people will think that you have partner that is a foreigner because of money or visa. Discrimination of other people is always there and present at all times. I experienced it and there are times that it was difficult to handle and I can’t hide my feelings. I don’t share it to him but he knows that I was hurt whenever other people are murmuring or gazing at us.



QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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Love Ain’t Enough, Love Fades too

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If it’s about Love everyone is excited to hear and it’s a hot topic to discuss. There is a song that inspired me to write this post. It’s like we found love and we are happy with the relationship but why there are times it’s difficult to keep it? Love is a beautiful thing, until it fades away. From the lyrics of the song :

” But there’s a danger in loving somebody to much,
and it’s sad when you know it’s your heart you can’t trust.
There’s a reason why people don’t stay where they are.
Baby, sometimes love just ain’t enough.”

Why love fades? What happen to the relationship that once like a fairy tale and so perfect?

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There are some people that are not realistic when it comes to relationship or love. They expect it like fairy tales and romantic movies. There are some cases that when reality bites they will feel bad and disappointed about their relationship. The colorful and bright changes to dark and gloomy. In this cases, we need to grow up and don’t expect too much.Feeling appreciated and special play an important role in the relationship. In the beginning of the relationship everything is much appreciated but what happen when time flies? That’s why there are some couple feel that the relationship is not all worth it.

Why is it loving too much can ruin the relationship? It’s because we’re being possessive with our partner and we don’t trust them. When are in love you have to weigh in everything. How many percent? For yourself? For your partner? We shouldn’t give it all. It’s risky but you need to ask yourself if everything is worth the risk.

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They say that it’s better for the relationship when your partner is with you because the love will stay and won’t fade but I don’t believe in it. For me, there are some close distance that their love fades because of losing attraction to each other. There are times that we are too familiar with each other that’s why love fades. Familiarity can be the reason because we know our partner too much. Instead that we think of them as our partners it leads to friendship. The feeling is changing without any notice.

Arguments and misunderstandings like we all know is always there in the relationship but there are some relationship that I think they don’t know how to handle arguments and misunderstandings. Being honest about our feelings can sometimes too hard to say. When we get into the habit of swallowing our feelings and turning against our partner rather than stating how we feel, it’s not a good sign at all. Some people give up so easily because of this reason but it’s better to talk about it.

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If the one you love breaks your heart so badly that you feel bitter and unhappy and the trust that you had wasn’t there anymore we feel that we fall out of love for sure. Love and Trust  are needed in the relationship it won’t be a real relationship if there’s absence. Forgiveness can be given but to the fact that they hurt you love fades.
Yes, love becomes boring  and love does fade with time. Its law of nature. Everything fades. The roses that he gave you from the red petals to brown to black. The love letters that you keep the writings fade because you keep it for so long.  Everything is gonna end. So is love.
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So, if there’s a chance to stay together you need to find ways to keep your love alive. I know that you both know each other and how to hold on to the love and relationship that you have. Obstacles are the just tests for the both of you. If you give up easily it means that you don’t treasure each others love. Love ain’t enough and love fades but be strong and hold on.
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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Never love anybody who treats you like ordinary.”

– Oscar Wilde

Why Some Guys Are Afraid Of COMMITMENTS?

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I know that not all guys like commitments and there are reasons behind it. While I was talking to a friend, we had a heart to heart talk and she told me the reason why the guy she likes doesn’t want to commit. She gives me an idea to write a blog post about it. I ask some of my friends about this topic and I will list it down below :

He has PRIORITIES – This can be the top of the list. But all of us have priorities in life. I think that he doesn’t want to commit it’s because his family, friends and career is more important. He doesn’t want to have conflicts between you and him.

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He is NOT SURE IF YOU’RE RELATIONSHIP WILL WORKCommitments have risk and it’s not good to hear if he invests too much and it won’t work the way he wanted it to be. But you can’t be sure if you won’t be in the relationship.

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He is after THE SEX – This is for real. Some guys are just out there doing this all the time. Most of his relationship involves sex.

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He NOT INTO YOU – He may find you nice and fun but he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. It’s a “FriendZone” for you and it’s too difficult to handle but you have to accept it and move on.

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He DOESN’T WANT DEEPER RELATIONSHIP – He really isn’t ready to be in a relationship. He might find it to difficult to be with someone.

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RELATIONSHIP is NOT in his vocabulary – Avoiding ” THE REAL SCORE ” between you and him. He is not taking it seriously and he is not exclusive.

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He CHANGES HIS ACTIONS  – He likes you now and  will act like he is your boyfriend. Then the next time you meet he will changes the actions because he realizes that he is not ready to commit.

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He is JUST PLAYIN’ – There are chances that he will lose in dating other women. He just wants to goof around with others and being committed is not on his list.

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He is IN LOVE SOMEONE ELSE – He is in love but the bad thing is… it’s not YOU. He has someone in his mind.

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He is not FINANCIALLY STABLEWomen wants to be secured in the relationship so some guys are thinking twice to be committed because money is important for the future.

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These are just few reasons. There are more but I can’t list it all. Anyway, I still respect some other men reasons but I just hope that in time they will have the courage to commit in the relationship if they are sure that they love the woman.

“Credits to my friends JEM and BARTY for the suggestion and helping me on this post. <3″

QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Sometimes good relationships end not due to the absence of love but because of the lack of commitment and dedication.”

 

 

 

When To End “US”

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Ending up a relationship is too hard to handle. Makes me you feel s***. Ooppss! Sorry for the words. “Let’s break up!” it is easy to say right!  What if you both realize one day that you are not both meant for each other. Okay! I watch a lot of romantic movies and sometimes it ends up like this. There are many things that can lead to ending up your relationship. Arguments. Misunderstandings. Falling out of love. It’s not you,it’s me ( this is a WHATEVER reason! ) . When can you feel that you needed to end up the word “US” and be “HIS and HER”.

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Spaces between US. No doubt this can lead to break up. It’s okay to say that you need your “ME” time but if it is too much that way you can’t have your time with your partner. It’s better to say “bye-bye!”

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No Effort for US. If you both feel that the relationship is getting nowhere but your the only one who do all the efforts it’s better to pack up the scene and leave. Always remember that it’s not always you and me there should be us.

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Lies too many lies. This can destroy a relationship. The trust that you both build to each other is fading and all gone. You pretend that everything between us are okay but it’s not.

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Avoiding US. It means that when you call or send messages your partner doesn’t care at all. Or almost all of the times you turn off your phone or go on a silent mode. When you see him/her faraway you just go away or poof! You’re not listening to what he/she is talking or making an eye to eye contact with your partner.

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Not having fun with US. You get mad easily if your partner jokes on you. Get offended for nothing. You find yourself in a bad mood for nothing. You are not excited to meet or just be lazy to see each other. If you are together you want to shorten the time.

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No Future for US. If we are enjoying our relationship we dream and plan a lot together. Even if your relationship is still fresh you can see him/her in the future. Having a family and waking up beside your partner. If the relationship is at the near end all of it is nothing and you the future for you both are so blurry.

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Yes, it’s better to end up US than to stay in the relationship that you are not happy with. The feeling is like locking in a prison and wanting to be free. Time and Love heals remember. If you are not meant to be together probably there is someone better for you!

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“Breakups hurt, but losing someone who doesn’t respect and appreciate you is actually a gain, not a loss.”

Our Song and “Us”

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Every time I am watching romantic movies there’s always a scene that songs are playing. In the back of my mind, I wish I am the woman on that movie. There are a lot of songs that I dedicated to Nigel and it’s mostly love songs.He is not a fan of it but I appreciate he is trying to listen to it. If you love listening to music you have a lot things on your mind and you make each songs as your soundtracks.

I am thinking what will be the best soundtrack for me and Nigel. For us. For our relationship. I love listening to songs that are around 80’s and 90’s because the lyrics of the songs are more meaningful and sweet. I love to listen to Air Supply, The Carpenters and a lot more. The songs are catchy and you can really relate through it. I also love revival songs. Here in the Philippines there are lots of singers who revives songs from the past.The same songs but different styles of singing. Mostly ballad and mellow tracks. I wanted to include OPM ( Original Pilipino Music ) on my post. Here, I will mention Filipino singer/s who sing the revival or the original song.

The songs that I choose are the best for us. These are revival songs by my favorite Filipino singers. They did the revival few years ago but it’s still famous here in the Philippines. I think the songs really fit for the both of us. While reading my posts, you will know why I choose the songs in here. My relationship with him was unexpected and because we in a long distance relationship we miss each other every day even if we are having our Skype Dates. I will share the lyrics of the songs in here so you can check it out. Who knows you might download it.

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GLORY OF LOVE – DINGDONG AVANZADO AND JESSA ZARAGOZA

It was originally sang by Peter Cetera. A 1980’s hit and was written by him and David Foster. The genre is pop / soft rock. Year 2000’s ” New Found Glory ” did the revival. This song was included in Jessa Zaragoza’s album. I love to listen to this version because it’s like they give more meaning to the song especially they are couple so I can relate to it. They did some edit of the lyrics of the song and it’s great and that makes the difference of it.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

The song reflects my relationship with Nigel. While listening to it I am picturing it out the scene in the movie with him. Rainy day in the park just having fun and enjoying the rain. Nigel is the only guy who that gives me mixed emotions, makes me so special and always telling me that I am his forever and my soul mate. He is my dream guy I know that for sure. No matter what happen he will fight for our love.

LYRICS:

Dingdong : Tonight it’s very clear, as we’re both lying here
There’s so many things, I want to say
I have always love you, I could never leave you alone

Jessa : Sometimes I just forget, say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying
I don’t wanna lose you, I could never make it alone

Dingdong : I am a man, who will fight for your honor
Jessa : You’ll be the hero I’ve been  dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Jessa : You keep me standing tall, you help me through it all
I’m always strong when you’re beside me
Dingdong : I have always needed you, I could never make it alone

Jessa : You are the man who will fight for my honor
Dingdong : I’ll be the hero you’ve been dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Dingdong : Like a knight in shining armor, from a long time ago
Just the time or seize the day,Jessa : take me to your castle far away

Jessa : You are the man Both: who will fight for my/your honor

I’ll be the hero that Jessa : I’ve been dreaming of ( You’ve been dreaming of )
Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We did it all for love, we did it all for love
We did it all for love, we did it all for love

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EVERYDAY – AGOT ISIDRO

I know that are wondering about this song and it’s not familiar. This is an original Filipino music. Agot Isidro is a Filipina recording artist, actress, host, and TV personality. This is a ballad song and this a 90’s hit here in the Philippines.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

This is like a long distance relationship. Checking the song lyrics there is distance between the lovers in the song. I can relate to the song because I always miss him. Because of the distance I really want him to know that I may not be there but telling him how much he means to me is like my presence is there with him.

 LYRICS:

Got a letter in the mail today
and im glad you’re doing fine
U tell me your missing me
and its cold in new york city
well me and the girls were alright
thinking about you night after night
and if you feel the same way too
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everyday ill always love you
everyday im always thinking of you
everyday’s another lonely day without you
everyday you’re here beside me
everyday im always dreaming of you
everyday i will be right here waiting for you
everyday…hoo
It’s another long and sleepless night
And thoughts run through my mind
Guess I’m just feeling lonely
It’s been so empty since you’ve been gone

I’ll be holding on for it won’t be long
I’ll be counting the days til i see u home
And if u feel the same way too
Just remember these words ill say to you

Repeat chorus

Everyday…everyday

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SECRET LOVE SONG – LITTLE MIX FEAT. JASON DERULO
This is a modern song and you can hear on the radio playing. A ballad song that gives me chills every time it plays on my playlist. Little Mix a British girl group and consisting of members Jade Thirlwall, Perrie Edwards, Leigh-Anne Pinnock, and Jesy Nelson. Jason Derulo is an American singer, songwriter, and dancer.
 WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?
I am hooked with this song since I looked for the song lyrics and it hit me much every time they sing this. There is something in this song that I can’t explain. It’s like a secret love between the two person. They have mutual feelings but they can’t express their love to all. I tried to relate this to my relationship because we are far from each other and I feel envious to other couples that are so close to each other and they can do anything.
 LYRICS:
When you hold me in the street
And you kiss me on the dance floor
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

We keep behind closed doors
Every time I see you, I die a little more
Stolen moments that we steal as the curtain falls
It’ll never be enough
It’s obvious you’re meant for me
Every piece of you, it just fits perfectly
Every second, every thought, I’m in so deep
But I’ll never show it on my face

But we know this, we got a love that is homeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

[Jason Derulo:]
When you’re with him, do you call his name
Like you do when you’re with me? Does it feel the same?
Would you leave if I was ready to settle down?
Or would you play it safe and stay?

Girl you know this, we got a love that is hopeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

And nobody knows I’m in love with someone’s baby
I don’t wanna hide us away
Tell the world about the love we’re making
I’m living for that day
Someday
Why can’t I hold you in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that we could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours, I’m yours

Oh, why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours
Why can’t I say that I’m in love?
I wanna shout it from the rooftops
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

Why can’t we be like that?
Wish we could be like that

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NOTE : I should have posted this to LDRBN but soon our community will be closing down so I will just share in here. The posts that I will do in the future will be dedicated for LDRBN and LDRBN friends and I hope we will continue to support each other.
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Signs that you LDR is REAL

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I am in long distance relationship for more than a year now and this year is his first visit and first meeting. I have mixed emotions. I am happy, excited and nervous at the same time. There are a lot of thoughts running through my mind. I know that my relationship is still fresh not like others that’s been together for many years and years. How do we know if your long distance relationship is REAL? Below are the signs that long distance relationship is for REAL.

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  • DISTANCE Doesn’t Matter. – United Kingdom to Philippines. We are 6,000 miles apart. Distance is not the hindrance if you are both in love with each other. You both think that this is a just a test to you both and it can make your relationship stronger.

 

  • You’re both COMMITTED. – When you say you are in a relationship or committed to each other it means that it’s only between “me” and “you” or “us”. No other people are involve in your relationship.

 

  • MUTUAL feelings and love. – I know there are times that it’s difficult to be sure if your partner feels the same way as you are feeling. Be sensitive and be more observant with each other. You can really feel it if your feelings are mutual.

 

  • QUESTIONABLE future together. – If you are in a long distance relationship there should be plans in the future together especially on how you can both close the distance. Where to stay? What to do? When is the right time? If you think that you can’t see each others future it’s better to call it quits than to hope for nothing.

 

  • This relationship is not an ILLUSION. – Yes, this is really important. You really have to be sure that he or she is not just in your dream. You have to wake up and face the real world. Hey, It’s the REALITY!!!

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These are just few signs that I can share to everyone that are in a relationship especially in long distance relationship. I will be sharing more not only for long distance but also to close distance couples.

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Thanks for reading!

Reasons Why I Love My English Man

I am in love … I know it’s true love … He is not just an ordinary guy  but he is my English Man … He means a lot to me .. And soon we will be together …

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These are things that are running on my mind this time. It’s been a long time that I haven’t posted in here. There are lots of things happens in this past weeks and some are shocking. Anyway, I am will just share why I  love my English Man.

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  • His Charms

Even if he is bullying me and making fun of me once in a while but he started to use his charms on me it’s all gone. He has this armor that can attack me if I am starting to get mad at him.

  • His Smile and Laugh

My boyfriend doesn’t smile or laugh a lot if there are people seeing us doing Skype. When it’s just the two of us those rare smiles and laughs are always there to make me happy. Once a guy is ” acrimonious ” in nature and when he smiles in your conversation it means a lot and it changes every thing.

  • Being Straight-forward

I know it’s kinda weird that I like him that way but it’s good for me because I can know how he feels for me and for others. There are times that I can’t stop him from being frank but I know he is just saying what’s on his mind and I do respect it.

  • Being Cool and Positive

He is the only person that I know that never been angry at all. I even asked his sister about it. He is a cool guy and never gets mad easily. If I am down and feeling stress he always reminds me of many positive things and never give up and just cool down.

  • His Accent

He doesn’t have strong English accent but whenever he talk or speak I am trap in him. It’s like being hypnotize by him. It’s one of the reasons why I am in love with him.

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These are just few reasons why I love him. There are more and many more to mention. Our relationship is not perfect but we are trying our best to end up together in the future.

Thank you for reading

xoxo ♥

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BONUS : MY FAVORITE ENGLISH ACTORS

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