In a Relationship : Foreigner Boyfriend

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I am in a relationship and I am PROUD of it. My boyfriend is a foreigner and he is English. It’s just that there people who will judge why do you like foreigners. I know that there are people that can relate to me but there are some that feels envious about the relationship. I do feel bad whenever I hear people murmuring or gazing at us (especially me )  whenever we pass by them. I’ve experienced that when he was here for a vacation ( his first visit ). I know that you can’t stop other people from criticizing the relationship.

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Before I prefer to have a Filipino boyfriend because I know that there will be spark between us. After experiencing the heartbreaks I promise myself not to have another Filipino boyfriend. I don’t judge all of them but after the same reasons of having my heartbroken I think it’s enough. ( Enough… enough…!!!). Now, let’s start… I will share that there are disadvantages and advantages of having a foreigner boyfriend.




DISADVANTAGES AND ADVANTAGES:

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  • Cultural differences this can be a disadvantage and an advantage because it’s good that you can learn a new culture and you will more expose to it but sometimes there are couples that are having a conflict because of adapting of each others cultures.Be more optimistic to it because you are learning another culture and I think it’s a cool thing to do ( especially food you will discover new taste and special kind of foods )

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  • There is an instance that you can have  miscommunication because of languages ( Language Barrier ). There are times that learning another language and pronouncing the words properly is difficult. Learning each others language is fun and interesting because it can help you to communicate more to your partner’s relatives and friends.

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  •  Migrating to which country will stay ( if it’s her or his ). Who will migrate is you or your partner. There will be a lot of discussion to make and the decision making can be a headache. So the best thing is the both of you need to talk more about it and try to share their ideas about migrating.

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  •  This is the fear of all, being in Long Distance Relationship. Not being together. Miles and miles apart form each other. This can be hard. I know because I am in this situation but communication is the key. You need to communicate with each other just a simple or quick text to send to you partner is enough. Loyalty needs to be there,too. If you are in a relationship you are committed and it means it’s only your partner even you are two worlds apart.

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  • There are times that other people will think that you have partner that is a foreigner because of money or visa. Discrimination of other people is always there and present at all times. I experienced it and there are times that it was difficult to handle and I can’t hide my feelings. I don’t share it to him but he knows that I was hurt whenever other people are murmuring or gazing at us.



QUOTE OF THE DAY:

“You can talk with someone for years, everyday, and still, it won’t mean as much as what you can have when you sit in front of someone, not saying a word, yet you feel that person with your heart, you feel like you have known the person for forever…. connections are made with the heart, not the tongue.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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LDR Problems and Ways to Avoid it

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Hello guys! It’s been a while that I haven’t been posting in here. I do admit that after the LDRBN stopped my blogger instinct seemed so down. I wanted to write and post something but I don’t know how to start and what to write. I felt lame after so I was busy with work, going out with friends and family and “ME” time. I am not really back on track but while I was browsing my news feed on Facebook. I read many things about long distance relationship and some caught my attention. There are a lot of problems in long distance relationship but good thing LDR couples manage and solve it right away. I will just share some problems about LDR and how to avoid it.

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PROBLEM #1

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  • B.O.R.E.D. – Yes, it happens all the time. There are times that you are sick and tired of the same conversations that you have and you don’t know what topics you can talk about. The result is the long silence on your Skype Video dates.

AVOID IT !

  • Remember that only boring people get bored. You have to expand more topics. Look for topics that can spice things up ( NOTE : I am not talking about the naughty topics.) You can search for topics that can make your partner curious so they can ask many questions. If you are in an interracial relationship, you can teach your partner your language ( NOTE : basic expressions in your language ). Teach your partner some expressions that they are not used to hear it all time. At least you can both expand your knowledge.

PROBLEM #2

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  • Jealous Much – Because of the distance between couple and there are times that when they go out with friends I mean very close friends we can’t handle ourselves to be jealous. There are times that we are too afraid to lose them. Sometimes it’s the instinct that a human has.

AVOID IT !

  • You have to be true and be real on what you feel. It’s better that you say it with honesty than keeping it. Don’t be afraid to say it. When you are saying or talking to your partner you have to calm down and listen also listen to your partner side of the story. Don’t judge everything that you see.

PROBLEM #3

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Arguments and Fights

    – It’s not easy if you argue and fight especially if you are in a long distance relationship. Misunderstandings and a lot of misunderstandings will occur. Temper can’t be handled carefully can be stressful.

AVOID IT !

  • Do not debate with each other. Always remember to breathe in and breathe out.If the other person is angry let that person loose himself or herself. Don’t go at the same feelings with your partner. Try to solve the problem together. You are partner so don’t try to argue with other much.

PROBLEM #4

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  • Missing too much – This is one of the challenges when you are in a long distance relationship. It makes you crazy because you miss your partner. You wish that you are with him/her.

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  • Try not to think much about your partner. Do not focus too much. Think of other things where you can get him/her off your mind. Go out with friends. Go shopping or window shopping. Travel or go on with a trip with your family or friends. Try to blog or read books. There are many things to do.

PROBLEM #5

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  • No Signal. – This is the worst problem in long distance relationship. I have it all the time. Sometimes signal is all gone at all. You try to turn off and on your phone but it’s the same.

AVOID IT !

  • This can’t be avoided. Just make sure that you have a good or great signal. If you have a better signal you try to send a message to your partner about it so your partner will not be worried about you.

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These are just few problems that we can or encounter when you’re in a long distance relationship. I hope that it can somewhat help when you are in a LDR. Thank you for reading my post!

NOTE : I miss writing! 🙂

CONFLICTS : You can check this out!

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QUOTE OF THE DAY:

” Distance never separates two people Truly in Love.”

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Our Song and “Us”

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Every time I am watching romantic movies there’s always a scene that songs are playing. In the back of my mind, I wish I am the woman on that movie. There are a lot of songs that I dedicated to Nigel and it’s mostly love songs.He is not a fan of it but I appreciate he is trying to listen to it. If you love listening to music you have a lot things on your mind and you make each songs as your soundtracks.

I am thinking what will be the best soundtrack for me and Nigel. For us. For our relationship. I love listening to songs that are around 80’s and 90’s because the lyrics of the songs are more meaningful and sweet. I love to listen to Air Supply, The Carpenters and a lot more. The songs are catchy and you can really relate through it. I also love revival songs. Here in the Philippines there are lots of singers who revives songs from the past.The same songs but different styles of singing. Mostly ballad and mellow tracks. I wanted to include OPM ( Original Pilipino Music ) on my post. Here, I will mention Filipino singer/s who sing the revival or the original song.

The songs that I choose are the best for us. These are revival songs by my favorite Filipino singers. They did the revival few years ago but it’s still famous here in the Philippines. I think the songs really fit for the both of us. While reading my posts, you will know why I choose the songs in here. My relationship with him was unexpected and because we in a long distance relationship we miss each other every day even if we are having our Skype Dates. I will share the lyrics of the songs in here so you can check it out. Who knows you might download it.

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GLORY OF LOVE – DINGDONG AVANZADO AND JESSA ZARAGOZA

It was originally sang by Peter Cetera. A 1980’s hit and was written by him and David Foster. The genre is pop / soft rock. Year 2000’s ” New Found Glory ” did the revival. This song was included in Jessa Zaragoza’s album. I love to listen to this version because it’s like they give more meaning to the song especially they are couple so I can relate to it. They did some edit of the lyrics of the song and it’s great and that makes the difference of it.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

The song reflects my relationship with Nigel. While listening to it I am picturing it out the scene in the movie with him. Rainy day in the park just having fun and enjoying the rain. Nigel is the only guy who that gives me mixed emotions, makes me so special and always telling me that I am his forever and my soul mate. He is my dream guy I know that for sure. No matter what happen he will fight for our love.

LYRICS:

Dingdong : Tonight it’s very clear, as we’re both lying here
There’s so many things, I want to say
I have always love you, I could never leave you alone

Jessa : Sometimes I just forget, say things I might regret
It breaks my heart to see you crying
I don’t wanna lose you, I could never make it alone

Dingdong : I am a man, who will fight for your honor
Jessa : You’ll be the hero I’ve been  dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Jessa : You keep me standing tall, you help me through it all
I’m always strong when you’re beside me
Dingdong : I have always needed you, I could never make it alone

Jessa : You are the man who will fight for my honor
Dingdong : I’ll be the hero you’ve been dreaming of
Both : We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Dingdong : Like a knight in shining armor, from a long time ago
Just the time or seize the day,Jessa : take me to your castle far away

Jessa : You are the man Both: who will fight for my/your honor

I’ll be the hero that Jessa : I’ve been dreaming of ( You’ve been dreaming of )
Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We’ll live forever, knowing together that we
Did it all for the glory of love

Both: We did it all for love, we did it all for love
We did it all for love, we did it all for love

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EVERYDAY – AGOT ISIDRO

I know that are wondering about this song and it’s not familiar. This is an original Filipino music. Agot Isidro is a Filipina recording artist, actress, host, and TV personality. This is a ballad song and this a 90’s hit here in the Philippines.

WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?

This is like a long distance relationship. Checking the song lyrics there is distance between the lovers in the song. I can relate to the song because I always miss him. Because of the distance I really want him to know that I may not be there but telling him how much he means to me is like my presence is there with him.

 LYRICS:

Got a letter in the mail today
and im glad you’re doing fine
U tell me your missing me
and its cold in new york city
well me and the girls were alright
thinking about you night after night
and if you feel the same way too
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everyday ill always love you
everyday im always thinking of you
everyday’s another lonely day without you
everyday you’re here beside me
everyday im always dreaming of you
everyday i will be right here waiting for you
everyday…hoo
It’s another long and sleepless night
And thoughts run through my mind
Guess I’m just feeling lonely
It’s been so empty since you’ve been gone

I’ll be holding on for it won’t be long
I’ll be counting the days til i see u home
And if u feel the same way too
Just remember these words ill say to you

Repeat chorus

Everyday…everyday

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SECRET LOVE SONG – LITTLE MIX FEAT. JASON DERULO
This is a modern song and you can hear on the radio playing. A ballad song that gives me chills every time it plays on my playlist. Little Mix a British girl group and consisting of members Jade Thirlwall, Perrie Edwards, Leigh-Anne Pinnock, and Jesy Nelson. Jason Derulo is an American singer, songwriter, and dancer.
 WHY DID I CHOOSE THIS SONG?
I am hooked with this song since I looked for the song lyrics and it hit me much every time they sing this. There is something in this song that I can’t explain. It’s like a secret love between the two person. They have mutual feelings but they can’t express their love to all. I tried to relate this to my relationship because we are far from each other and I feel envious to other couples that are so close to each other and they can do anything.
 LYRICS:
When you hold me in the street
And you kiss me on the dance floor
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

We keep behind closed doors
Every time I see you, I die a little more
Stolen moments that we steal as the curtain falls
It’ll never be enough
It’s obvious you’re meant for me
Every piece of you, it just fits perfectly
Every second, every thought, I’m in so deep
But I’ll never show it on my face

But we know this, we got a love that is homeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

[Jason Derulo:]
When you’re with him, do you call his name
Like you do when you’re with me? Does it feel the same?
Would you leave if I was ready to settle down?
Or would you play it safe and stay?

Girl you know this, we got a love that is hopeless

Why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

And nobody knows I’m in love with someone’s baby
I don’t wanna hide us away
Tell the world about the love we’re making
I’m living for that day
Someday
Why can’t I hold you in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that we could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours, I’m yours

Oh, why can’t you hold me in the street?
Why can’t I kiss you on the dance floor?
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t it be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours
Why can’t I say that I’m in love?
I wanna shout it from the rooftops
I wish that it could be like that
Why can’t we be like that? ‘Cause I’m yours

Why can’t we be like that?
Wish we could be like that

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NOTE : I should have posted this to LDRBN but soon our community will be closing down so I will just share in here. The posts that I will do in the future will be dedicated for LDRBN and LDRBN friends and I hope we will continue to support each other.
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Signs that you LDR is REAL

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I am in long distance relationship for more than a year now and this year is his first visit and first meeting. I have mixed emotions. I am happy, excited and nervous at the same time. There are a lot of thoughts running through my mind. I know that my relationship is still fresh not like others that’s been together for many years and years. How do we know if your long distance relationship is REAL? Below are the signs that long distance relationship is for REAL.

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  • DISTANCE Doesn’t Matter. – United Kingdom to Philippines. We are 6,000 miles apart. Distance is not the hindrance if you are both in love with each other. You both think that this is a just a test to you both and it can make your relationship stronger.

 

  • You’re both COMMITTED. – When you say you are in a relationship or committed to each other it means that it’s only between “me” and “you” or “us”. No other people are involve in your relationship.

 

  • MUTUAL feelings and love. – I know there are times that it’s difficult to be sure if your partner feels the same way as you are feeling. Be sensitive and be more observant with each other. You can really feel it if your feelings are mutual.

 

  • QUESTIONABLE future together. – If you are in a long distance relationship there should be plans in the future together especially on how you can both close the distance. Where to stay? What to do? When is the right time? If you think that you can’t see each others future it’s better to call it quits than to hope for nothing.

 

  • This relationship is not an ILLUSION. – Yes, this is really important. You really have to be sure that he or she is not just in your dream. You have to wake up and face the real world. Hey, It’s the REALITY!!!

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These are just few signs that I can share to everyone that are in a relationship especially in long distance relationship. I will be sharing more not only for long distance but also to close distance couples.

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Thanks for reading!

Learning From You …

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We love all quotes because it can be inspirational, love, hate, hurt, pain, long distance and etc., Almost social media sites have pages where you can follow and you can share, reblog and retweet those quotes. Honestly, I am one of you guys. I love reading and a fan of pages of quotes. I share it depends on my mood.  I like love and relationship quotes ( when I am in love ), hurt and pain quotes ( sad and emotional ), bitchy quotes ( If someone is bitching me and that person need to know I talking about him or her ), friendship quotes ( happy thinking about my friends ) and lastly quotes about god ( I am feeling inspired ). Once I shared these post a lot of my friends liked and I am thinking they can relate to it. I am very happy that in LDRBN they have a new blog prompt “QUOTE” and I am so excited to post about it. On this blog post, I hope you guys enjoy reading it, be inspired and learn from it. I know that this prompt is for long distance relationship quotes but I add a little sugar and spice on this post. This post is an interview style I tried to do a question and answer with my friends and co-workers. At first I am thinking to do a forum in LDRBN but I think it’s better if I communicate with the people around me. Talking and chit chatting with them personally. It was a great experience because some of them are busy working  and I am bugging them for answers ( sorry guys ). While reading their answers I am so flattered because I am learning from them and how they interpret the quotes by their own opinions and views.

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What are Quotes?

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VERB
~ To repeat (a passage, phrase, etc.) from a book, speech, or the like, as by way of authority, illustration, etc.
~ Repeat or copy out (a group of words from a text or speech), typically with an indication that one is not the original author or speaker.
NOUN
~ A quotation from a text or speech.
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Why Do You Love Reading or Sharing Quotes? What kind of quotes do you like?
What is your favorite quote? Why do you like it?
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I asked some of my friends and check out their answers :

Joana : I like reading and sharing quotes to be inspired. I like reading quotes about love. I love this quote because in love you have to accept your partner. Like his/her attitude, status in life and the most important his/her whole character. Acceptance is important in love and relationship. In the verse John 3:16 : “Unconditional love gives without expecting anything back”. You are ready to sacrifice everything to that person because you love him/her. They say that, it takes two to tango. If you are the only one who keeps fighting for your love and not your partner that means that person doesn’t love you very much. Remember, you are partner so you have to work together both will  make an effort and loves each other unconditionally.

“The greatest gift that you can give to others is the gift of unconditional love and acceptance.”

– Brian Tracy

 

Marie : I like reading it to learn from it and I like to share so another person can know about it. I like reading about love, inspirational, God, faith quotes. I have a favorite quote and I like it because it talks about Real Love.

“Real love is always fated. It has been arranged before time. It is the most meticulously prepared of coincidences. And fate, of course, is simply a secular term for the will of God, and coincidence for His grace.”
― Mike Mason

Liberty: It’s funny but no I  don’t usually read and sharing quotes. There are times I read about Life quotes. I like this quote because you eventually have to face up to the consequences of your actions.

” what goes around comes around…”

Angeline: Yes, I guess. I like quotes mostly from the Bible and some famous Christian leaders specifically Charles Spurgeon. I admire David’s song in the bible , which is Psalm 8. What I mean in here is the whole Chapter 8 of  Psalm. I like this verse because it reminds me that what I think of myself isn’t really matters. It is God who justifieth.

The verse Psalm 8:4 tells us that we, mankind, are really nothing but God gives us His special attention and watches over us. Thus, it speaks how an amazing and sovereign God sees beautiful butterflies in tiny worms in us.

Judelyn: Yes, I like reading and sharing quotes. I like inspirational quotes. I love this quotes because God knows my life and I have nothing to hide from him.

“Every day of my life was recorded in Your book. Every moment was laid out before a single day had passed.”

Noel: Not so.. I like inspirational quotes. I don’t have favorite quote in particular. I have in mind this quote because we all work hard to achieve our dreams but sometimes we give up or fail. If you have goals , be more positive and work harder, you the ability to dream big and reach it.
” work hard.. dream big.”
Gab: Yes. I like quotes on science. What I like about because of so many religions attempt to validate themselves with prophecy..think of how many people rely on these prophecies, however vague, however unfulfilled, to support or prop up their beliefs..but there has never ever been a religion with the prophetic accuracy and reliability of science? … No other human institution comes close.
“Those who raise questions about the God hypothesis and the soul hypothesis are by no means all atheists. An atheist is someone who is certain that God does not exist, someone who has compelling evidence against the existence of God. I know of no such compelling evidence. Because God can be relegated to remote times and places and to ultimate causes, we would have to know a great deal more about the universe than we do to be sure that no such God exists. To be certain of the existence of God and to be certain of the nonexistence of God seem to me to be the confident extremes in a subject so riddled with doubt and uncertainty as to inspire very little confidence indeed.”
– Carl Sagan
Judy:  I like reading books and I usually jot them (quotes) down for past-reading reflection. I like short but loaded quotes. I think the movie “Troy” has loads of really good ones.I like the one Hector said about war best. Unfortunately, I don’t have the exact words so I’ll give the second best which is Achilles’: “You gave me peace in a lifetime of war.” He said it to the Trojan priestess Briseis. Achilles was born to be a slayer and all he cared about was being remembered  for his glory. When Briseis came, she filled something in Achilles’ heart no glory-from-war could ever give. I personally think that the person who’ll matter the most in our lives is the one who grants us peace.Stories about love amidst bloody wars have  their special place in my heart.
Danna: Yes, I like reading and sharing quotes because it help us to grow in real life situation. It helps us to connect with other people. I like about love, encouraging and inspirational kind of quotes. The reason why I like this quote it’s because, heart is the most beautiful creation that we have. Through our hearts we can love unconditionally to someone we love and to other people.
I like the quote written by Helen Keller, she said: “The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart.”
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Why Am I Inspired by Quotes?
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It’s so simple. I can apply it on my daily life. The feeling of reading those quotes makes me stronger and different. If I can’t express myself to someone, sharing quotes is the way. You can also spread love and inspiration to others. You are learning from it and you share it to others.
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My Turn : Dee’s Favorite LDR Quotes
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 Everyone knows that long distance relationship is tough like tougher than what you think. There are hindrances that can interfere in the relationship but if we really love someone truly those things that can affect your relationship both of you can survive it.
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There are no perfect relationship. For me, it’s better to be opposite because you can both learn from each other but I know there are risks but be positive about it and everything will be okay. Long distance and close distance it doesn’t matter as long as you both know how to handle the relationship.
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NOTE : Thank you so much to my friends and co-workers who participated in here. I really,really appreciate it. I know you guys are busy but had the time to answer the questions. Yey!!! Love you ❤
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QUOTE OF THE DAY:
” Life is only as good as the people you share it with.”
– Darren Criss –
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This blog post was inspired by LDRBN’s blogging prompt : QUOTE
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LDR Challenge Questions ( Day 83,84,85,86,87)

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Day 83: What do you enjoy about being in a long distance relationship?

I am enjoying  our Skype dates and our crazy stories we share.

Day 84: If suddenly, you could be with your partner for the next three hours, what would you do together?

Cuddle time and try to go on a date together.

Day 85: If you had to describe to someone what being in this type of relationship is like, what would you tell them?

I don’t recommend being in LDR because it’s really tough relationship. You have to be strong and willing to take risks with everything.

Day 86: What do you hope the future holds for the both of you?

I do hope that we won’t change and be in love with each other every single day. Won’t be bored and never give up on this relationship.

Day 87: What are at least five things you really want to do together when you see each other in person?!

  1. Travel Together
  2. Take a lot of photos together ( we don’t know when will we see each other again)
  3. Have a date ( on a beach )
  4. Cuddle Time
  5. Meeting my mom and bonding time together